If you want to be an author but have trouble finding the time or motivation to write, this post might help. You can also have a look at my other mindset articles.
Tony Robbins says 6 needs drive all human behaviour and that the actions we take, good or bad, are because one or more of these needs are being met.
The 6 human needs are:
- Certainty – feeling sure about something or the desire to control the outcome
- Uncertainty – the need for change, surprise, excitement, variety and something new.
- Significance – status, reputation, image, feeling needed, wanted, importance, validation, and recognition for your uniqueness.
- Love and Connection – feeling close and connected to someone or something, intimacy, meaningful relationships, fulfilment, and purpose.
- Growth – expanding and developing yourself to be the best you can.
- Contribution – being of service to others, giving back, and working in harmony with what’s around you for the greater good.
The first four needs – certainty, uncertainty, significance, and love and connection are basic level needs that are the strong primary drivers of how we act.
If you can link writing to at least these four needs, you have a far better chance of feeling motivated to write long term without having to force yourself.
For example, certainty in writing could come from the number of words you write or how long you write for. Uncertainty is what you will write about or how your story will unfold.
Significance comes from the status of being a published author, something many people dream of but rarely achieve.
Love and connection could come from connecting with your characters, a sense of purpose or feeling fulfilled creatively.
If you can also add in growth and contribution, you’re onto a winning combination.
Growth could come from improving and developing your writing skills, which will happen with practice.
Contribution comes from believing your book will be of service to others by inspiring, educating, or entertaining.
Only when you can see how writing can meet your needs, will it become something you automatically do without forcing yourself because it feels good, is good for you, is good for others, and serves the greater good.
The Next Step to Replace a Habit
To change your behaviour, you must also look at how what you were doing instead of writing also met your needs. For example, maybe you chose to watch TV, clean the house, play with kids, etc.
These would come from one of four places:
- It feels good
- It’s good for you
- It’s good for others
- It serves the greater good
You must replace your old behaviour with something that meets 4-6 needs and comes from all four places.
There will be a transition period, usually around 21-30 days when you start to change a behaviour where it may not feel good.
This is where you keep pushing through any discomfort by reminding yourself of the big picture (why you’re writing in the first place), and the needs writing is or will be meeting.
That’s when writing becomes part of who you are, not just something you do.
Cheers to your writing success!